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Monday, October 19, 2015

7 Things I wish I would have known when Ellie was a Newborn

Hey all,

So Ellie is 6 months old.  Like SIX MONTHS OLD. That's half a year.  I can't believe it.  While this has definitely been the fastest six months of my life, it has also been the longest and arguably the hardest as well.



As a new mom, you get a ton of advice.  I love advice, and I have no problem soaking it all in.  You never know what little pearl of wisdom you'll want to try when all else has failed.  So, here are a few things...call it advice if you want... that I wish I would have known during the first few months.


[ONE]

Sleep.  Oh sleep.  You've never been so tired in your entire life.  What I didn't know was that you have to work to get your newborn to sleep.  Ellie wasn't the baby that you could rock to sleep, then ever so gently put down in a bassinet.  She wanted to be held, 24/7.  That made things really difficult during the first few weeks.  I thought it was going to be like this forever, and it was not.

[TWO]

While on the topic of sleep...they will sleep through the night.  When you're so used to waking up 1, 2, 3, 4, etc. times per night, you're running on fumes.  You don't know that it will be like to actually get a full night of rest.  It WILL happen.  You feel like it wont, but it will.  Some sooner rather than others, so try not to compare to other babies.  I thought that Ellie would never sleep through the night, and she does now.

[THREE]

Everything is temporary, the good and the bad.  Nothing is your new normal, whether it be good or bad.  Even with the sleeping thing, I know that once she starts getting teeth, things will be changing again.  Every time you think, "I got this!", something knocks you down, and when you're down...things get better.  I've learned to enjoy the good days and know that the fussy days are temporary.  I feel like babies know when they've pushed you to the edge, then they give you just enough of a break for you to regain sanity before it starts all over again.

[FOUR]

See lactation early.  If you choose to breastfeed, and it's something you feel really strongly about... SEE A LACTATION CONSULTANT when you start to have doubts.  Ellie was having some issues that were seriously stressing me out and making me want to quit.  A lactation consultant recognized her/my problem immediately, and after my 45 minute appointment, I had a renewed sense of confidence.  If you see one that you don't mesh with, try again.  Of the three LCs I've seen, one is great, and the other two were "eh."

[FIVE]

Guilt. There is always something to be guilty about.  I feel like I wasted a lot of time struggling with feelings of guilt for absolutely no reason.  "Why didn't I see lactation earlier?"  "I didn't read to her enough today." "She has spent too much time in her car seat today."  "Kathy and Hoda on in the background is probably turning her brain to mush."  I mean...I could go on forever and ever, but I'm slowly learning to relax.  I try my hardest to make sure that Ellie is happy, healthy, clean and fed. Sometimes, I need to make sure that those apply to me as a mom too.

[SIX]

Communication with spouse and asking for help.  This one is huge.  For some reason, I thought it was the end of the world to "bother" George with tasks around the house.  I felt guilty (see above, ha!).  He works his butt off all day, and then he comes home and I'm asking for help.  But, the reality is, that when I started asking for help, I became much less stressed, which made everyone happier.

[SEVEN]

Networking!  Having a support system of other moms has been so helpful.  Whether it be a quick text to my sister in law (who is a total baby guru, I'm so lucky...she's amazing) or a friend who has a small baby Ellie's age, sometimes it's just nice to bounce ideas off others.  Sometimes, it's also just nice to have a short bitch-fest about how tired you are or how chores are piling up.  Misery loves company, ha!



That's all I have for now.  What do you wish you could have told your "new mom" self?

Thursday, October 1, 2015

October Favorite Things

Wow, it has been a minute since I've posted.  I thought I'd come back and do a quick "Favorite Things" post to kick off October.  Here are some things I've been loving:


1.) Costco Leggings

I've decided that I'm not going to wear real pants this fall or winter.  I mean, I'll throw on some jeans if I want to get fancy, but I'm going to live in leggings and long sweaters to cover my mom-butt.  These Costco leggings are awesome.  SUPER soft and very thick.  You don't get that see-thru problem when you bend over.  They come in grey, black and navy.

2.) Crazy Cups

Most K-Cup variety packs seriously blow.  You end up really enjoying about half, and the rest is decaf crap or some gross butter almond something or other that you don't really want.  These Crazy Cups have the best variety with flavors like "Bananas Foster Flambe," "Death by Chocolate," "Frosted Oatmeal Cookie."  They're all delicious without being too much. Buy It Here

3.) Simple Micellar Cleansing Water

I wash my face before bed, but when I wake up in the morning, I need something to clean up with really quick.  You just put a dab of this on a cotton ball, and takes any oil or grime off without drying your face out.  It doesn't leave the soapy residue that you get with a makeup wipe. Buy It Here

4.) Target Threshold Monogram Mug

How cute and fall-ish is this mug?  I'm also a sucker for anything monogrammed.  Target has a ton of tartan style mugs and dishcloths that are absolutely adorable.  Buy It Here

5.) Maybelline Fit Me Powder

Nothing is better than the MAC mineralize skin finish powder, but this is a close dupe.  It gives more full coverage, but has a matte and kind of velvety finish.  Does that make sense?  I like to put on concealer to hide blemishes and dark circles, then put this all over with a big powder brush and skip foundation.  It's great to brush all over when you're in a huge hurry.  Love it! Buy It Here

6.) @fuckjerry on Instagram

Excuse the French, but this Instagram account is absolutely hilarious.  It's kind of like @thefatjewish, but I think it's even funnier.

7.) Sally Hansen Miracle Gel

Yes, yes... I'm all about doing your own gel manicure.  (I have a tutorial here) BUT... for when you're really in a pinch, this polish is by FAR the next best thing.  If I have 2 minutes during one of Ellie's naps to do my nails, and I don't have time to drag out my light and all that, this is awesome.  My nails chip in about 5 minutes after regular polish, but this stays looking good for 4-6 days! Buy It Here

8.) @targetdoesitagain on Instagram

Holy cow.  Those of you who know me know that I'm slightly obsessed with Target.  These girls are AWESOME!  They post their favorite things from Target that you may have missed.  Clothing, food, home items.  Like I need another reason to go to Target, ha!

9.) Silk Unsweetened Almond Milk

I had to cool it on the dairy because it was hurting Ellie's tummy.  Now that she has gotten older and is eating solids now, I've been able to slowly add it back into my diet.  I don't, however, think I'll ever drink normal milk again.  To me, it tastes better than cow's milk and has all of the same health benefits.


So, that's it.  What are some things you're loving for the month of October?