Related Posts Plugin for WordPress, Blogger...

Thursday, October 16, 2014

Getting Pregnant... What I've Learned

Hey guys!

So, if you missed my last post, you probably already know from this post's title that... I'm pregnant!  Whoo hoo! About 14 weeks and 3 days-ish.  Before I delve into all things baby and pregnancy (sorry... it's going to hijack the blog), I want to start from the very beginning.

First of all, I want to say this and be very clear.  I didn't have an easy time getting pregnant, but there are SO SO SO many out there who have had and are having a million times the difficulty that I had.  My heart goes out to them just experiencing the smallest taste of what they go through.


So having said that, here's my story.  George and I decided a general time frame that would work for us to start a family.  Now, those of you who know me personally, know that I am impatient... to the extreme.  I am also a nurse, who works with a ton of women, many in their childbearing years, and there's always at least a few pregnant girls at any given time.  Most of the people who openly talk about getting pregnant didn't have any trouble at all.  "My husband just looks at me and I get pregnant," some say.  Well, while you were able to conceive from brief eye contact... that is not the norm.  Then you hear the other end of the spectrum, the couple that tried for years, did IVF, IUI, adoption, etc.  You never really hear stories of the "in betweeners."

To me, an "in betweener" is someone who has been trying for 9 months to a year or more with no luck, but eventually gets pregnant.  Any OB will tell you that it takes about a year ... assuming everything with your cycles is normal.  If you have crazy cycles, there may be some investigation by your doctor that needs to happen.

While I'm no expert, I'm going to point out the important things that I've learned.

#1 The "in betweeners" don't often talk about their journeys to pregnancy.  Don't assume that if you're not in the "fast track" group that you'll need some serious medical intervention.  Sometimes things just take a while to iron themselves out.

#2 Ditch the pill ASAP.  Often, your body has been so used to being fed an exact dose of hormones, that when you get off of it, it takes a while for things to get back to normal.  Once you stop taking it, the hormones are out of your body within a couple days... BUT getting back to a normal routine may take up to a year.  There is always a chance that you could get pregnant right away, so be aware of that. But,  more importantly...know that the longer you stay on it, the longer it may take you to get pregnant.


#3 Talk to your doctor. It is really easy for your healthcare provider to dismiss your concerns by giving you the "wait one year then talk to me" conversation.  What was important for me was to tell them how jacked up my cycles had been.  It was then that they decided to do some additional testing.  You want to be proactive and give yourself the best chance.  The first thing they look into is PCOS (Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome.) This testing usually includes blood work and an ultrasound. My results were pretty good, but not awesome.

#4 Decide what will keep you sane. Will taking your temperature every morning and peeing on expensive ovulation sticks make you feel better?  For me... it actually did.  It made me feel like I was actually DOING something.  If anything, you will learn a little more about your body.  I took my temperature every single morning for 10 months straight.  Through doing this, I was able to recognize a pattern to give me a better clue of when I was ovulating vs. when I was supposed to be ovulating.  If this all sounds like a big, expensive waste of time... don't drive yourself crazy.


#5 Find someone to talk to...but stay off of message boards.  Whenever you google anything about trying to conceive, you will be directed to a ton of bump.com and other sites that have message boards full of people giving their two cents.  There are message boards devoted to breaking apart pregnancy tests to possibly see if you have a positive result maybe one day sooner.  If those boards keep you sane, more power to you.  To me, they just opened up a whole new door of crazy. I did, however, have a friend who was going through a similar experience as me.  It was extremely helpful to send a quick text or message just checking in or maybe even vent frustrations.

#6 Resist the urge to physically harm people who ask if you're pregnant yet.  Everyone has an answer to this question, and unless you're REALLY close, it's none of your damn business.  While people have the best intentions, it's like rubbing salt into a wound.  Just remember that these people have good intentions or are most likely making small talk.  I've found that a simple "no" works just fine, or perhaps showing your teeth and growling if you're feeling particularly annoyed.


Now, everyone is different.  But for me, I grew more and more frustrated as the months went on. George and I did some actual fertility testing that we passed with flying colors.  This was a huge relief.  Eventually, the decision was made that I may need some pharmaceutical help.  I picked up my Clomid pills and felt really good.  I felt ready for a fresh start with this next cycle, and I was hopeful.  Well, it turned out that I was already pregnant, and didn't have to even take the Clomid.  Who knows what it was that worked for us.  Time? The HSG procedure I had done? Patience? The money we had spent? (hahaha) The Mucinex that I was on for my cold?  So many people will point to one thing that they feel caused them to get pregnant, but the truth is... you'll never know.

I know that this was long... and probably much more information that many of you care to read about my or anyone else's ovaries.  But, I feel as an "in betweener" hearing my pregnancy journey may help someone else.

If any of you have any questions about my particular experience or just want to talk, feel free to email me.  I'm sitting around the house all day barfing, so I've got some time to chat. :)  Oh yes, I forgot to mention the prize...the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.......yes, the barfing. I asked, wished and prayed for this.  But, I've heard that you get a baby at the end, so it's all worth it. :)

21 comments :

  1. Loved this post! Again, congrats to you and your hubby! I am so glad and feel relieved you made this post. I have a mild form of PCOS, but my doctor has said nothing is certain just yet in terms of infertility. Even though I am a couple of years from having babies, I always worry about being an "in-betweener" or worse. It's good to know there's some normal people out here for support! Hope you feel better really soon! xo

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. I am here to spread this good news to the entire world on how Dr. Ken of supersolutionhome1@gmail.com or supersolutionhom@yahoo.com helped me solve my infertility problem and i am so happy now that i am now a mother because for over 4 years i have been trying to get pregnant and needed help, i and my husband always go for medical check up and the doctor always say that the both of us are fine and i have no where else to get help from and all hope was almost lost until one day i visited a friend of mine and i told her what i was passing through and she introduce me to this great spell caster called Dr. Ken who helped her when she was in need of help, so i took a try to contact Dr. Ken through his email and i explain all my problem to him and after we have talked he perform an infertility spell for me and after that he told me what i should do, and i followed the instruction he gave and after that he instructed to sleep with my husband and also i followed the instruction and he said that the next week i should go for medical check up and the doctor confirmed that i was 4 months pregnant and i was so happy that all my sorrows were gone for ever, i am so very happy now and also you need any kind of help or the same line with mine, contact Dr. Ken on his email: supersolutionhome1@gmail.com or supersolutionhom@yahoo.com
      or view through his website and Contact him there: http://supersolutionhome.webs.com Call his phone number +2348074433380

      Delete
    2. I am here to spread this good news to the entire world on how Dr. Ken of supersolutionhome1@gmail.com or supersolutionhom@yahoo.com helped me solve my infertility problem and i am so happy now that i am now a mother because for over 4 years i have been trying to get pregnant and needed help, i and my husband always go for medical check up and the doctor always say that the both of us are fine and i have no where else to get help from and all hope was almost lost until one day i visited a friend of mine and i told her what i was passing through and she introduce me to this great spell caster called Dr. Ken who helped her when she was in need of help, so i took a try to contact Dr. Ken through his email and i explain all my problem to him and after we have talked he perform an infertility spell for me and after that he told me what i should do, and i followed the instruction he gave and after that he instructed to sleep with my husband and also i followed the instruction and he said that the next week i should go for medical check up and the doctor confirmed that i was 4 months pregnant and i was so happy that all my sorrows were gone for ever, i am so very happy now and also you need any kind of help or the same line with mine, contact Dr. Ken on his email: supersolutionhome1@gmail.com or supersolutionhom@yahoo.com
      or view through his website and Contact him there: http://supersolutionhome.webs.com Call his phone number +2348074433380





      I am here to spread this good news to the entire world on how Dr. Ken of supersolutionhome1@gmail.com or supersolutionhom@yahoo.com helped me solve my infertility problem and i am so happy now that i am now a mother because for over 4 years i have been trying to get pregnant and needed help, i and my husband always go for medical check up and the doctor always say that the both of us are fine and i have no where else to get help from and all hope was almost lost until one day i visited a friend of mine and i told her what i was passing through and she introduce me to this great spell caster called Dr. Ken who helped her when she was in need of help, so i took a try to contact Dr. Ken through his email and i explain all my problem to him and after we have talked he perform an infertility spell for me and after that he told me what i should do, and i followed the instruction he gave and after that he instructed to sleep with my husband and also i followed the instruction and he said that the next week i should go for medical check up and the doctor confirmed that i was 4 months pregnant and i was so happy that all my sorrows were gone for ever, i am so very happy now and also you need any kind of help or the same line with mine, contact Dr. Ken on his email: supersolutionhome1@gmail.com or supersolutionhom@yahoo.com
      or view through his website and Contact him there: http://supersolutionhome.webs.com Call his phone number +2348074433380

      Delete
    3. I am here to spread this good news to the entire world on how Dr. Ken of supersolutionhome1@gmail.com or supersolutionhom@yahoo.com helped me solve my infertility problem and i am so happy now that i am now a mother because for over 4 years i have been trying to get pregnant and needed help, i and my husband always go for medical check up and the doctor always say that the both of us are fine and i have no where else to get help from and all hope was almost lost until one day i visited a friend of mine and i told her what i was passing through and she introduce me to this great spell caster called Dr. Ken who helped her when she was in need of help, so i took a try to contact Dr. Ken through his email and i explain all my problem to him and after we have talked he perform an infertility spell for me and after that he told me what i should do, and i followed the instruction he gave and after that he instructed to sleep with my husband and also i followed the instruction and he said that the next week i should go for medical check up and the doctor confirmed that i was 4 months pregnant and i was so happy that all my sorrows were gone for ever, i am so very happy now and also you need any kind of help or the same line with mine, contact Dr. Ken on his email: supersolutionhome1@gmail.com or supersolutionhom@yahoo.com
      or view through his website and Contact him there: http://supersolutionhome.webs.com Call his phone number +2348074433380

      Delete
  2. I love this. I was also an "in betweener". While not to the extreme, it was 10 months the first time and 9 the second. I'm due in February :) SO glad to hear your positive news! Hope you are feeling well!!!!

    ReplyDelete
  3. Girl I'm so glad you're back! I just wished you lived near me and we could be BFF's. We haven't started trying yet but and maybe it's just my pessimism but I bet we'll have a hard time getting pregnant. I've self diagnosed myself with possible PCOS, chin acne, hair in strange places, only thing normal is my periods so there's hope. I'm so glad you guys are pregnant! You're going to have the best looking Greek kids.

    ReplyDelete
  4. I'm so glad things worked out for you and you were able to get pregnant! I worry that when we decide to start trying, it will take a while for us too. I've been on birth control for a long time and always worry that it will delay me getting pregnant.

    ReplyDelete
  5. Glad it all worked out for you in the end. I was never able to go on the pill after finding 10 brands and giving up because they all messed me up. Makes me almost glad though because it can take so long to get back to regular cycles.

    ReplyDelete
  6. Thanks so much for sharing your story. I am beyond thrilled you are back. My husband and I both had horrible complications as preemies and I am so pessimistic that it will take us forever to conceive. This gives me a bit of hope that there can be an inbetween. I spoke to my dr about the birth control issue and she said the first time you go off birth control is when you are typically most fertile so I am hoping for that!!

    ReplyDelete
  7. Great post! My doctor told me that she wanted me to get off the pill for a good three months before we started trying, just so you can get your hormones back in balance.

    ReplyDelete
  8. Thank you so much for sharing your story! I am an in-betweener and you are so right - not enough people are willing to openly talk about it. We have been trying for 11 months and are going forward with the basic fertility testing this month. It is reassuring to know there are success stories without needing invasive interventions. Congratulations on your growing family!

    ReplyDelete
  9. Love this post!! I was an in-betweener and I think you may be the 1st person I've heard openly talk about it! It took us 1 year to get pregnant with our first and 6 months with our second! Thanks for sharing!

    ReplyDelete
  10. Glad your back to blogging I love reading your post.

    Congrats. I can't wait to see nursery pics ;) I'm sure it will be super cute

    ReplyDelete
  11. Very informative. Congratulations again!

    ~Ashley @ A Cute Angle
    acutelifestyle.blogspot.com

    ReplyDelete
  12. Thanks for sharing your story! I have no reason to think we will have difficulty getting pregnant, but hearing more and more about how often people take a good while to get pregnant makes me nervous. I am finishing up graduate school, so now would definitely not be a good time to get pregnant, but I would hate to "wait" and then be forced to wait some more! I appreciate your honesty about the process!

    ReplyDelete
  13. It's so crazy how some people are like, "it was so much easier than I thought!" while it takes time for other people. You're right: I almost never hear people talking about the in-between time. Thanks for sharing. Congratulations again!

    ReplyDelete
  14. It took us fourteen months, and it was so incredibly stressful. We had agreed to get through the holidays before taking things to the next level, and we lucked out. And now I have this happy little six-month old playing on the floor in front of me! Congrats and I hope your pregnancy is a healthy one!

    ReplyDelete

  15. AN Amazing Testimony On A Spell Caster Who help us to get a baby, So me and my wife have been trying to get a baby for the last 5 years now and we have had no luck. she don't have a regular cycle so it is hard for me to tell when she is ovulating or not, but we always have sex at least 2 times a week, sometimes more. I know it can take up to a year to conceive but everyone i know who have had a baby have conceived within 2-3months of trying and it is really getting me and my wife had a fertility test about a year ago and the womb was fine.
    I'm thinking it could be a problem with me but I've never had any symptoms of any problems. My partner does smoke and have the occasional drink, and i used to smoke and also have the occasional drink. i know she is slightly overweight but that shouldn't affect our chances too much,one faithful day my friend told me to contact a spell caster that help her aunty, then i contact the man named dr odogun, he told me my problems will be over if only i just believe in him.i said ok and i agreed, after a week he send me a parcel through DHL and told me to give it to my wife to drink after making love to her which i deed as instructed. After 3 months my wife became pregnant. I know many people will not believe this but is a true life testimony. You
    can contact dr odogun via solutioncenter1121@outlook.com

    ReplyDelete
  16. I am here to spread this good news to the entire world on how Dr. Ken of supersolutionhome1@gmail.com or supersolutionhom@yahoo.com helped me solve my infertility problem and i am so happy now that i am now a mother because for over 4 years i have been trying to get pregnant and needed help, i and my husband always go for medical check up and the doctor always say that the both of us are fine and i have no where else to get help from and all hope was almost lost until one day i visited a friend of mine and i told her what i was passing through and she introduce me to this great spell caster called Dr. Ken who helped her when she was in need of help, so i took a try to contact Dr. Ken through his email and i explain all my problem to him and after we have talked he perform an infertility spell for me and after that he told me what i should do, and i followed the instruction he gave and after that he instructed to sleep with my husband and also i followed the instruction and he said that the next week i should go for medical check up and the doctor confirmed that i was 4 months pregnant and i was so happy that all my sorrows were gone for ever, i am so very happy now and also you need any kind of help or the same line with mine, contact Dr. Ken on his email: supersolutionhome1@gmail.com or supersolutionhom@yahoo.com
    or view through his website and Contact him there: http://supersolutionhome.webs.com Call his phone number +2348074433380

    ReplyDelete
  17. I am here to spread this good news to the entire world on how Dr. Ken of supersolutionhome1@gmail.com or supersolutionhom@yahoo.com helped me solve my infertility problem and i am so happy now that i am now a mother because for over 4 years i have been trying to get pregnant and needed help, i and my husband always go for medical check up and the doctor always say that the both of us are fine and i have no where else to get help from and all hope was almost lost until one day i visited a friend of mine and i told her what i was passing through and she introduce me to this great spell caster called Dr. Ken who helped her when she was in need of help, so i took a try to contact Dr. Ken through his email and i explain all my problem to him and after we have talked he perform an infertility spell for me and after that he told me what i should do, and i followed the instruction he gave and after that he instructed to sleep with my husband and also i followed the instruction and he said that the next week i should go for medical check up and the doctor confirmed that i was 4 months pregnant and i was so happy that all my sorrows were gone for ever, i am so very happy now and also you need any kind of help or the same line with mine, contact Dr. Ken on his email: supersolutionhome1@gmail.com or supersolutionhom@yahoo.com
    or view through his website and Contact him there: http://supersolutionhome.webs.com Call his phone number +2348074433380





    I am here to spread this good news to the entire world on how Dr. Ken of supersolutionhome1@gmail.com or supersolutionhom@yahoo.com helped me solve my infertility problem and i am so happy now that i am now a mother because for over 4 years i have been trying to get pregnant and needed help, i and my husband always go for medical check up and the doctor always say that the both of us are fine and i have no where else to get help from and all hope was almost lost until one day i visited a friend of mine and i told her what i was passing through and she introduce me to this great spell caster called Dr. Ken who helped her when she was in need of help, so i took a try to contact Dr. Ken through his email and i explain all my problem to him and after we have talked he perform an infertility spell for me and after that he told me what i should do, and i followed the instruction he gave and after that he instructed to sleep with my husband and also i followed the instruction and he said that the next week i should go for medical check up and the doctor confirmed that i was 4 months pregnant and i was so happy that all my sorrows were gone for ever, i am so very happy now and also you need any kind of help or the same line with mine, contact Dr. Ken on his email: supersolutionhome1@gmail.com or supersolutionhom@yahoo.com
    or view through his website and Contact him there: http://supersolutionhome.webs.com Call his phone number +2348074433380

    ReplyDelete

Your comments make my day, so make sure that your email address is linked to your account so I can respond. I try to respond to all comments, so if you don't hear back from me, it's probably because you're a "no reply blogger."