So, if you missed my last post, you probably already know from this post's title that... I'm pregnant! Whoo hoo! About 14 weeks and 3 days-ish. Before I delve into all things baby and pregnancy (sorry... it's going to hijack the blog), I want to start from the very beginning.
First of all, I want to say this and be very clear. I didn't have an easy time getting pregnant, but there are SO SO SO many out there who have had and are having a million times the difficulty that I had. My heart goes out to them just experiencing the smallest taste of what they go through.
So having said that, here's my story. George and I decided a general time frame that would work for us to start a family. Now, those of you who know me personally, know that I am impatient... to the extreme. I am also a nurse, who works with a ton of women, many in their childbearing years, and there's always at least a few pregnant girls at any given time. Most of the people who openly talk about getting pregnant didn't have any trouble at all. "My husband just looks at me and I get pregnant," some say. Well, while you were able to conceive from brief eye contact... that is not the norm. Then you hear the other end of the spectrum, the couple that tried for years, did IVF, IUI, adoption, etc. You never really hear stories of the "in betweeners."
To me, an "in betweener" is someone who has been trying for 9 months to a year or more with no luck, but eventually gets pregnant. Any OB will tell you that it takes about a year ... assuming everything with your cycles is normal. If you have crazy cycles, there may be some investigation by your doctor that needs to happen.
While I'm no expert, I'm going to point out the important things that I've learned.
#1 The "in betweeners" don't often talk about their journeys to pregnancy. Don't assume that if you're not in the "fast track" group that you'll need some serious medical intervention. Sometimes things just take a while to iron themselves out.
#2 Ditch the pill ASAP. Often, your body has been so used to being fed an exact dose of hormones, that when you get off of it, it takes a while for things to get back to normal. Once you stop taking it, the hormones are out of your body within a couple days... BUT getting back to a normal routine may take up to a year. There is always a chance that you could get pregnant right away, so be aware of that. But, more importantly...know that the longer you stay on it, the longer it may take you to get pregnant.
#4 Decide what will keep you sane. Will taking your temperature every morning and peeing on expensive ovulation sticks make you feel better? For me... it actually did. It made me feel like I was actually DOING something. If anything, you will learn a little more about your body. I took my temperature every single morning for 10 months straight. Through doing this, I was able to recognize a pattern to give me a better clue of when I was ovulating vs. when I was supposed to be ovulating. If this all sounds like a big, expensive waste of time... don't drive yourself crazy.
#6 Resist the urge to physically harm people who ask if you're pregnant yet. Everyone has an answer to this question, and unless you're REALLY close, it's none of your damn business. While people have the best intentions, it's like rubbing salt into a wound. Just remember that these people have good intentions or are most likely making small talk. I've found that a simple "no" works just fine, or perhaps showing your teeth and growling if you're feeling particularly annoyed.
Now, everyone is different. But for me, I grew more and more frustrated as the months went on. George and I did some actual fertility testing that we passed with flying colors. This was a huge relief. Eventually, the decision was made that I may need some pharmaceutical help. I picked up my Clomid pills and felt really good. I felt ready for a fresh start with this next cycle, and I was hopeful. Well, it turned out that I was already pregnant, and didn't have to even take the Clomid. Who knows what it was that worked for us. Time? The HSG procedure I had done? Patience? The money we had spent? (hahaha) The Mucinex that I was on for my cold? So many people will point to one thing that they feel caused them to get pregnant, but the truth is... you'll never know.
I know that this was long... and probably much more information that many of you care to read about my or anyone else's ovaries. But, I feel as an "in betweener" hearing my pregnancy journey may help someone else.
If any of you have any questions about my particular experience or just want to talk, feel free to email me. I'm sitting around the house all day barfing, so I've got some time to chat. :) Oh yes, I forgot to mention the prize...the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.......yes, the barfing. I asked, wished and prayed for this. But, I've heard that you get a baby at the end, so it's all worth it. :)