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Thursday, October 16, 2014

Getting Pregnant... What I've Learned

Hey guys!

So, if you missed my last post, you probably already know from this post's title that... I'm pregnant!  Whoo hoo! About 14 weeks and 3 days-ish.  Before I delve into all things baby and pregnancy (sorry... it's going to hijack the blog), I want to start from the very beginning.

First of all, I want to say this and be very clear.  I didn't have an easy time getting pregnant, but there are SO SO SO many out there who have had and are having a million times the difficulty that I had.  My heart goes out to them just experiencing the smallest taste of what they go through.


So having said that, here's my story.  George and I decided a general time frame that would work for us to start a family.  Now, those of you who know me personally, know that I am impatient... to the extreme.  I am also a nurse, who works with a ton of women, many in their childbearing years, and there's always at least a few pregnant girls at any given time.  Most of the people who openly talk about getting pregnant didn't have any trouble at all.  "My husband just looks at me and I get pregnant," some say.  Well, while you were able to conceive from brief eye contact... that is not the norm.  Then you hear the other end of the spectrum, the couple that tried for years, did IVF, IUI, adoption, etc.  You never really hear stories of the "in betweeners."

To me, an "in betweener" is someone who has been trying for 9 months to a year or more with no luck, but eventually gets pregnant.  Any OB will tell you that it takes about a year ... assuming everything with your cycles is normal.  If you have crazy cycles, there may be some investigation by your doctor that needs to happen.

While I'm no expert, I'm going to point out the important things that I've learned.

#1 The "in betweeners" don't often talk about their journeys to pregnancy.  Don't assume that if you're not in the "fast track" group that you'll need some serious medical intervention.  Sometimes things just take a while to iron themselves out.

#2 Ditch the pill ASAP.  Often, your body has been so used to being fed an exact dose of hormones, that when you get off of it, it takes a while for things to get back to normal.  Once you stop taking it, the hormones are out of your body within a couple days... BUT getting back to a normal routine may take up to a year.  There is always a chance that you could get pregnant right away, so be aware of that. But,  more importantly...know that the longer you stay on it, the longer it may take you to get pregnant.


#3 Talk to your doctor. It is really easy for your healthcare provider to dismiss your concerns by giving you the "wait one year then talk to me" conversation.  What was important for me was to tell them how jacked up my cycles had been.  It was then that they decided to do some additional testing.  You want to be proactive and give yourself the best chance.  The first thing they look into is PCOS (Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome.) This testing usually includes blood work and an ultrasound. My results were pretty good, but not awesome.

#4 Decide what will keep you sane. Will taking your temperature every morning and peeing on expensive ovulation sticks make you feel better?  For me... it actually did.  It made me feel like I was actually DOING something.  If anything, you will learn a little more about your body.  I took my temperature every single morning for 10 months straight.  Through doing this, I was able to recognize a pattern to give me a better clue of when I was ovulating vs. when I was supposed to be ovulating.  If this all sounds like a big, expensive waste of time... don't drive yourself crazy.


#5 Find someone to talk to...but stay off of message boards.  Whenever you google anything about trying to conceive, you will be directed to a ton of bump.com and other sites that have message boards full of people giving their two cents.  There are message boards devoted to breaking apart pregnancy tests to possibly see if you have a positive result maybe one day sooner.  If those boards keep you sane, more power to you.  To me, they just opened up a whole new door of crazy. I did, however, have a friend who was going through a similar experience as me.  It was extremely helpful to send a quick text or message just checking in or maybe even vent frustrations.

#6 Resist the urge to physically harm people who ask if you're pregnant yet.  Everyone has an answer to this question, and unless you're REALLY close, it's none of your damn business.  While people have the best intentions, it's like rubbing salt into a wound.  Just remember that these people have good intentions or are most likely making small talk.  I've found that a simple "no" works just fine, or perhaps showing your teeth and growling if you're feeling particularly annoyed.


Now, everyone is different.  But for me, I grew more and more frustrated as the months went on. George and I did some actual fertility testing that we passed with flying colors.  This was a huge relief.  Eventually, the decision was made that I may need some pharmaceutical help.  I picked up my Clomid pills and felt really good.  I felt ready for a fresh start with this next cycle, and I was hopeful.  Well, it turned out that I was already pregnant, and didn't have to even take the Clomid.  Who knows what it was that worked for us.  Time? The HSG procedure I had done? Patience? The money we had spent? (hahaha) The Mucinex that I was on for my cold?  So many people will point to one thing that they feel caused them to get pregnant, but the truth is... you'll never know.

I know that this was long... and probably much more information that many of you care to read about my or anyone else's ovaries.  But, I feel as an "in betweener" hearing my pregnancy journey may help someone else.

If any of you have any questions about my particular experience or just want to talk, feel free to email me.  I'm sitting around the house all day barfing, so I've got some time to chat. :)  Oh yes, I forgot to mention the prize...the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.......yes, the barfing. I asked, wished and prayed for this.  But, I've heard that you get a baby at the end, so it's all worth it. :)

Wednesday, October 1, 2014

And I'm Back!

Hey all!

Wooooah, it has been forever.  I'm so happy to be back in blog land!  It's nice to finally have the itch back! (Not that itch)

So for those of you who follow me on Instagram (@beautyandthegreek), you already know that I'M PREGNANT!  WHOOO HOO!!

George and I are so happy to announce that our little one will be arriving sometime around April 12th.


So that officially puts me at about 12 weeks and a few days along.

Many have asked how I'm feeling, and to answer that bluntly... pretty crappy. The nausea and vomiting train hit me pretty hard at about 6.5 weeks and kept chugging along until, well...now.  Every time I tell someone that the vomiting is slowing down, I spend the rest of that night puking my guts out.

My OB's office is pretty much against Zofran unless it's absolutely needed, so I've been taking Diclegis (which is worthless), with some Zofran thrown in when I can't keep clear liquids down.

It's been a real joy, lemme tell ya.

I am SO looking forward to not feeling sick morning, noon, and night.  I can't wait to be able to exercise and maybe feel like myself again. I miss being hungry too.

Anyways, I just wanted to do a quick update and share the awesome news!  I'm planning a few posts that will include our months leading up to pregnancy and how getting pregnant isn't as easy as everyone says it is, I have a few "bumpdate" bleh...I hate that word...pregnancy updates, and some other general stuff.

Thanks to everyone who has emailed me lately wondering where the heck I was. :)  Now... I want to know...

When did your morning sickness stop? Any words of advice?