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Tuesday, April 22, 2014

The Facade

Alright guys, this is going to be a long ramble, so bear with me...

The other day I was speed walking through the mall, trying to run my errands as quickly as possible, and something stopped me.  A giant butt picture. Not only was this butt wearing a thong and 8 feet tall, but it had some 2 foot tall, shallow but noticeable, stretch marks.  Whaaaattt???

This was in the window of Aerie, American Eagle's lingerie store, and is a part of their new campaign to ditch airbrushing and show real pictures.  How refreshing, right?  All of their pictures in the store and on their website aren't retouched and show models with a variety of shapes and sizes.  I don't know about you, but seeing a giant picture of a real butt, and not an airbrushed, unattainable butt...makes me want to support them and buy their product.

A different photo on Aerie.com
Anyways... what I'm trying to say is: Real is refreshing!

I (along with a TON of other blog readers) read Elle Noel's post a few days ago about "Transformation Tuesday."  If you missed it, catch yourself up here.  I couldn't agree with her more, and this inspired me to write today's post.


Let's get real people and ditch the facade.  I mean, really.  This whole, "here is my perfect life" thing on social media is getting old.  Staging your pictures, airbrushing your selfies, editing the picture you took of your dog.  Why are we all trying to be so perfect?

I understand that if you're going to share your life on social media, you would prefer it be the better moments.  But, when you're taking a picture of a new brand of juice that you just discovered, and you want to share its awesomeness, but you pour it out into a mason jar, add a beautiful special ordered paper straw, arrange a vase of fresh flowers, put it on your perfectly organized countertop with the sunlight shining in, and throw in your Mercedes key fob for good measure....

....I'm giving you a giant eye roll.  That is not your real life, and IF that is your real life, you have too much time on your hands.

I guess the same thing goes for all of the gym stuff.  I think there's a fine line between being inspiring and being obnoxious.  While I'm just laying it all out there, I'm going to be honest.  Sometimes I feel like posting every single workout with a picture included is bragging by saying, "Hey, look at me... look at these abs...don't I look good? I have so much determination.  I'm pretty awesome."  Am I alone in this? Shouldn't your progress speak for itself? Does saying this make me a #hater?


I know what you're thinking, if you don't like it, don't read it.
Agreed, 100%.
But, I don't want to "unfriend" or stop following someone who I legitimately like because they're annoying.  I feel like I have to give them another chance. Maybe they just need some more confidence, and this is their way of asking for encouragement?

I do enjoy reading about people's progress.  The first person that comes to mind is Brandi from Mama Laughlin.  I came across her blog on Pinterest about a year ago, and seeing her post pictures of her Garmin times and mileage so honestly was really inspiring.  She posted the good and the bad, and it was very approachable and real.


Again, I know that this is a rambling, get it off my chest, post.  I guess the whole point is to just say, lets start being a little more real. Maybe we shouldn't waste so much time trying to appear perfect, and use that time to do something productive.

AmIRight?

28 comments :

  1. I agree with you! I unfollowed some people on Instagram because they posted way too many work out photos. I'm okay with some, but when you post one every day it gets a little bit braggy. Not to mention, the more they posted, the less clothes they wore. What started out as "Here I am after working out-- look at me in my baggy shirt and shorts" quickly turned into "hey look at me in my underwear! Don't my abs look awesome?!" It got old super fast!

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  2. I loved what you had to say about "Why are we trying to be so perfect?" Where did that pressure come from? Lawd Day it's exhausting! Thanks so much for the shout out lady!

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  3. I completely agree girl! I love me some inspiration and motivation, but sometimes I feel like people are rubbing their progress in your face with the obnoxious amount of pictures and posts about how "perfect" everything is in their lives. Whether it is working out, their homes, their appearences - it's all the same and sometimes it's all annoying! Don't get me wrong, I am not knocking someone who is foturnate to have lots of lavish things but there is a huge difference between being genuine and real and being overly obnoxious about it. Great post!

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  4. TOTALLY agree with this - it is one of the main reasons I have stepped away from social media in general. Pro tip: the less you "interact" with an IG account, the less likely it is to appear on your feed. "Interaction" includes liking photos and searching for their profile. But I prefer to just unfollow; when I log into any social media account, I really don't have time to look at the accounts of those I "pity-follow." If they want to get upset about an unfollow, then they weren't a real friend anyway!

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  5. Hmmm...I find "real" people refreshing. I guess I'm a post whore.LOL I post all my workouts but I am far from perfect and I've gotten numerous response back that those posts keep people going and inspire them to get off their butts. But those posts are also without makeup, filters, or the slim app. I have a long way to go but I've come a long way also.:)
    But there are "those" people who use to be real and have kind of jumped on the crazy train and are just selling products that drive me crazy. Be real and be you.

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  6. Let the church say AMEN!!! The staging photos things really grinds my gears!! Half the time these people probably grab a plastic cup or something to drink out of and that mason jar is probably for show on the blog. I just can't! I'm always wondering how REAL these people claim to be

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  7. Emily I love this! This could not be any more true!

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  8. I agree about the perfectly staged pictures - sometimes I start to do it, and then I think about how ridiculous the entire thing is, and end up Instagramming a picture of my Ben and Jerry's carton with a blurry background and a box of tissues half in the shot...but it's still Ben and Jerry's so who cares!!! Ain't nobody got time for that!

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  9. Love this, I don't think I could have said this any better!!

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  10. Your right :) Sometimes I feel like I'm "tough" on myself because I don't have/do/share/look like the majority of the crap you see on TV or social media... and then I slap myself across the face and smile because I do the best I can.I didn't know people airbrushed their damn selfies?! That's just ridiculous! And I also agree with the whole every workout post. So so so stupid! I stand behind your thoughts on this topic 100% :)

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  11. I could not agree more with you! There are so many bloggers (especially the big ones) that post 'perfect life' pictures...it's irritating and total BS.

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  12. Yes, you are right! Enough with the fakeness! And the pictures with quotes get on my GD nerves!

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  13. Love this! I think there are a lot of posers out there!

    ~Ashley @ A Cute Angle
    acutelifestyle.blogspot.com

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  14. When I see these posts and photos you are describing I assume either a.) they have too much free time and need to devote some of that arranging things perfectly on the desk, hair and makeup done gym selfie time to volunteering in their local community or b.) they're REALLY, REALLY insecure and need a lot of praise. Also, my friends and I decided a long time ago that the people that brag about their significant other on social media or post photos of flowers and notes they've given them are the ones in the shittiest of relationships...the epitome of "fake it till you make it."

    I guess this comment was sort of a ramble too, ha. My apologies. I totally agree with your gripes :)

    -Heather
    I do what I want.

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  15. My LORD, love this post so much. Not so long ago a girl I went to high school with posted a picture of her "morning essentials" which included all sorts of random, and very pretty i might add, things. None of which I can assure you she needs in the morning. I think the picture is pretty, so why not caption it "pretty stuff i found on my beautiful kitchen counter". I just think sometimes it can get so over the top, and instagram especially has become competition-agram.

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  16. Love it! Amen to this girl. I'm with you on the workout thing. I don't get the need to post every time you hit the gym.

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  17. I'm going to play devil's advocate for a second, sorry. Maybe I'm just jaded because my husband is in advertising, but Aerie is totally just doing this as a marketing campaign. The women in the add aren't obese or ugly by any means- they're average. I guess I just see it a ploy to increase sales by targeting a different demographic. And in regards to the staged pictures, I think bloggers are damned if they do, damned if they don't. Show a sink full of dishes? You get blasted for me a slob. A spotless kitchen with cute decor? Fake.

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  18. Couldn't agree more. The staged pictures drive me crazy who's house and counters are that clean all the time. My life is messy. My dog requires blankets sprawled everywhere.

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  19. Love this post!! I think some ppl use their blog and instagram to share their lives "greatest hits". I can think of quite a few bloggers who make it so obvious they're staging pics and making posts about how perfect their lives are. I think we all can get caught up in caring what others think about us more than what we think about ourselves. Going to check out that post now!

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  20. *big eye roll* is the best. I agree, some people need encouragment and some people are posers. I loved Elle Noel's post too! Its just a perfect example of how Social Media is totally used to distort everything....now i have to go stalked all the fit people on instagram and wish i was as fit is them! kbye! :) Great post, got lots of awesome comments!

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  21. I love all of this!!! You couldn't be more right!

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  22. So true girl! I love that Aerie uses real girls and their real bodies--no airbrushing...totally makes me want to buy their product. And I agree with you about everyone trying to be perfect...it's exhausting. I don't know why people do it. If I'm taking a photo of something for my blog or Instagram, I might move a pile of junk out of the way, but that's about it...no adding fresh flowers, cute note pad, mason jar, etc. to make it look perfect. I'd rather see that people are real so I can actually relate to them. Thanks for posting this!

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  23. This read was so refreshing. I am so glad you and Elle touched on these topics. I think I will follow suit. There's been a lot on my mind lately. Sometimes you just need to vent it out!

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  24. Love this post! Thanks for sharing I hadn't seen these ads yet! 'Bout time a retailer got with this!

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  25. I love Arie for their campaign, how awesome is this seriously. My friend Cari posted a flyer in the mail she got from them and it was so awesome. Me personally, I share the good and the bad. I want above all to people know that I am relatable - I want people to be real with me so I have to project that as well. People with their absolutely amazing countertops and perfect pictures shock me. I am envious, but I just don't have time for that, ha! Fitness wise though, I share a lot, because that is my passion and focus. When people have a hobby, something, or someone they love so much, they tend to talk about it and "show it off" a lot. I don't do it to be obnoxious, but I definitely see your point on how some people do. XO

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  26. Would you beleive I DON'T go to the mall? So hearing about aerie's campaign is REALLY cool! If we demand to see more real people then slowly the companies will comply and there will be no more scrawny heroine tooking super models in magazines but real girls with real curves!

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