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Wednesday, September 25, 2013

To Do: Eat a Cheeseburger

Hello all!  Today I would like to talk about a topic that is very personal for me... eating cheeseburgers. I'm kidding, I'm kidding.

I decided to write this post after one of the many times I've been told to eat a cheeseburger.  As I've been more open about my running and sharing my progress, many comments have come in through social media.  Most are very supportive, but I've also gotten a small bit of resistance.  Friends and acquaintances have questioned my new passion for running.

"Why are you running so much?"
"You're too skinny already."
"You need to eat a cheeseburger, not run."

Now before you get all, "Wahhh, you're skinny. Don't complain!"  Hear me out.

I've been thin my whole life.  I started in ballet around age five and continued until seventeen.  While being thin was a very important part of being a successful ballerina, I never had to really work at it.  I would dance 8 hours a day (went to high school half days), and I would eat my dinner in the car on the way home from ballet.  On weekends, after a full day of dancing on Saturdays, my friend and I would eat a full box of pizza rolls while watching old ballet videos.  Ice cream after that.  No matter what we ate, we would burn it off in the next day of strenuous dancing.

                                                                     Age ten or eleven?                                   Myself in the middle with some ballet friends in Taiwan

Once I quit ballet and went to college (best decision I ever made), I still worked out, but definitely didn't enjoy it.  I ran a tiny bit on the treadmill and used the elliptical, and I was bored to tears! It made me sad that I couldn't find a form of exercise that I liked even a tenth as much as I enjoyed ballet.  My diet was so-so.  I would eat some junk food, and then get back on track with a normal, healthy diet.  Throughout all of this, my weight stayed the same, and I was happy with the way I looked.

Junior year of college Spring Break

After college, I was on the same diet and exercise plan as before: weighing myself occasionally, running when I had time, and sticking to a fairly healthy diet.  I was still happy with how I looked at this point.

So fast forward a few years, and that brings us to June of this year.  Over the past few months, I've been in "half marathon/marathon training mode."  I've lost a little too much weight from not replacing the calories burnt by running 20-30 miles/week.  I wont get into the details, but my body wasn't happy.  Well, you know you can always count on a cruise to pack on a few LB's and get you back to a healthy baseline. :)

Now that I'm back to where I need to be on my weight, I'm really paying attention to eating enough.  I'm huge on fresh fruit, cottage cheese, almonds, hummus, and veggies.  I eat that almost every day in addition to my normal meals.  I am the happiest I've been with how I look in a long time. I'm gaining muscle tone,  happy with my weight, and most importantly, feeling the best I've felt in years! 

August 2013

Here is where the cheeseburger thing really starts to bug me.  By telling me that I need to eat a cheeseburger, you're telling me that there's something wrong with the way I look. There is nothing wrong with the way I look.  I'm a naturally thin person, who is perfectly healthy, and again, feels fantastic.

I'm not saying this to "attack" those friends, family and coworkers who have made these comments in the past.  I know that they're being honest and maybe even trying to compliment me?  

I know this can make me look like I'm being a little too sensitive, and maybe I am, but I have to get it off my chest.  People (mostly when I was a teen) have asked how I found pants that fit, why I was so thin,  if I had an eating disorder, they have assumed that I had an eating disorder, and gossiped about my "eating disorder" (that they had assumed existed). 

I guess my point is that I would never tell someone that they DON'T need to eat a cheeseburger, so why would someone tell me that I DO?  Talking directly to someone about their weight is fine, but when you're giving your unsolicited opinion about what is wrong with their weight, I think that is rude.

Well, I'm here to say, that I'm over it.  I don't mean it passive aggressively.  I truly mean it.  People can go on telling me that I need to eat a cheeseburger, and I will smile and laugh, then move the subject along. 

What are your thoughts?


  1. I love this post! I really wish I could tell some people to lay off that cheeseburger! I've been thin my whole life too and have been told I need to eat more a few times. It's frusgerating because it's no ones business! And if you notice the people who tell you this probably could afford to lose a few lbs. No one should ever look at your thin healthy body as a bad thing just because they aren't the same way. I think you look great and admire you with what you've accomplished with your running! And be happy you can eat a cheeseburger without having to worry about what thigh it's going to!

  2. I don't think you have to eat anything you don't want to! You look healthy. Some are prone to gain weight while some can't keep weight on. It is a shame that people feel the need to tell others how to live.

  3. Amen! Why do people this is an ok form of talking about weight??? Gosh I never understood that. Why can't we as women build each other up instead of tear each other down?! And my biggest thing with this issue is I've know and been in the group of "fat" girls, HOWEVER that does not give them the right to tear anyone else down! Much less assume a person who is smaller than they are doesn't have feelings or even something they would change about their appearance. Sorry, I've been around too many overweight people, or people who think they are over weight that act/say/do to people in better health without a second glance. We are all women, we are all in our own journey. I'm so glad you posted this! :) it's awesome!!! I love it and it got me all riled up! :) (a friend seriously did this last night to a much smaller friend and it really ticked me off!)

  4. I think you look amazing! Even better than looking amazing, is feeling amazing, and it's so great that you are happy with your body (as you should be-it's killer!). There are a lot of people who are not comfortable in their body, even if they look great. I'm kind of the same way you are. I've been in sports since I was in first grade, and during high school I was working out twice a day, 5-6 days a week because of all the sports. I ate fast food and junk food all the time, but it didn't matter because I burned so many calories with sports. It's been 8 years since high school, and I know I've gained some weight, loss muscle, and am way out of shape. I don't care about the number on the scale, but I'm not happy with where I'm at right now, so I'm working on it. I've just started running in the past few weeks and I'm hoping that will help. I need to get better about my diet and do some strength training too. Anyway, my point is thanks for sharing your story! You look amazing so don't worry if anyone says otherwise :)

  5. Cheeseburgers are great, you're great, keep doing what you're doing :)

  6. It's really easy for people to criticize someone from behind a computer screen without really thinking of the repercussions and that there is a real person on the other side. It's sad, really. You are brave for continuing to share your running journey and to share this post. Bravo for that! People are always going to have a criticism if they're unhappy in their own life but you are doing right by just brushing it off your shoulder! Happy running!

  7. I love this post. I'm one of the girls who could afford to skip a cheeseburger now and then, but people don't realize that thin or not, criticizing someones weight is just as hurtful.

  8. This was such a great post! I am a firm believer of if you don't have something nice to say then keep your mouth shut ;-) You look great by the way!! I am a runner too, but a short distance runner (like 3-4 miles) so kudos to you and happy marathon training :-)

  9. You're beautiful. Regardless of your weight.
    Forgive others who can't see that :)
    (They're jealous, maybe???)

  10. I have always been the type that has to lay off the cheeseburgers (or desserts). Being interested in health education, I think the other side of the coin is fascinating! I love how different each individual's body is and how they react differently to food and exercise. Thanks so much for sharing your side of things!

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  12. First of I just found your blog and love it already! Second I totally agree with you, people need to watch what they say. I went through (am still going through) a stage of trying to incorporate more calories into my diet because like you I am running over 25 miles a week. I am tall and naturally thin so when I lose even a couple founds people notice and tell me to eat more fatty food, like a cheeseburger. All I have to say to them is if you don't have anything nice to say then don't say anything at all.

  13. I get this too. Mostly from my grandma. But she's crazy, so there's that to consider ;)


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